As a father of two daughters, the recent rape and murder of a young medical student in Kolkata has resulted in despair and anger https://www.thehindu.com/news/national/west-bengal/in-kolkata-rape-murder-and-rampage/article68532922.ece. My initial response was to ignore the news and the commentary – this after all didn’t happen in Bengaluru – the city I live in. But the protests by the medical fraternity across India forced me to face the reality – if it can happen in Kolkatta – it can happen anywhere.
The details of the crime are too gruesome to recount. But the image of that young woman, her dreams and aspirations extinguished in an act of unimaginable cruelty, will forever haunt me. It is a chilling reminder of the vulnerability of women in our society, even within the supposed safety of a hospital.
The statistics paint a grim picture. India reports over 87 rape cases every day, and the actual number is likely much higher due to underreporting. Every 15 minutes, a woman is subjected to some form of sexual violence. These are not just numbers; they represent the shattered lives of countless women, their families, and their communities.
The problem is not a lack of laws. India has some of the strictest anti-rape laws in the world. The problem is the lack of implementation, the lack of accountability, the lack of empathy. We live in a society where victim-blaming is rampant, where women are told to dress modestly, to stay indoors, to not venture out alone. This is not the solution. The solution lies in changing mindsets, in holding perpetrators accountable, in creating a safe and secure environment for women.
We need to raise our voices against this injustice. We need to educate our sons to respect women, to treat them as equals. We need to hold our leaders accountable for ensuring the safety of women. We need to create a society where women can walk freely, without fear, without shame.
Here are a few actions that I have listed that we can all take:
- Demand justice for the victim and her family: Sign petitions, participate in protests, and make our voices heard. These protests have resulted in the Supreme Court of India taking suo moto notice of the case and setting up a task force on safety – https://www.ndtv.com/india-news/will-set-up-national-task-force-of-doctors-on-hospital-safety-chief-justice-6375831
- Educate our children about gender equality and respect for women: Teach them to challenge harmful stereotypes and to stand up against violence. We should have modules on this in in schools and colleges.
- Support organizations working towards women’s safety: Donate our time, money, or resources to NGOs and initiatives that are working to create a safer environment for women.
- Speak up against victim-blaming and slut-shaming: Challenge these harmful narratives whenever we encounter them.
As a father, I dream of a world where my daughters can walk freely, without fear, and pursue their dreams and aspirations without being subjected to violence or discrimination. A world where they are treated with the respect and dignity they deserve. This dream can become a reality if we all work together to make it happen. Let us be the generation that creates a society where women are safe, empowered, and free.